Have you ever felt stuck in a problem? I'm guessing so and many times, it's part of the human condition. When you are stuck in a what looks like an unsolvable problem, how do you get out of it in the end and how long does that take? You will have an in-built strategy that moves you from a stuck position to a new, enlightened position unconsciously, giving you the solutions that you need to move forward. The key question is, does your strategy work for you and is it moving you out of 'stuckness' as quickly as you would like?
What keeps you stuck? The stickiness is caused by the way you hold the problem in your mind. Perhaps you picture the problem in your minds eye, you may even run a movie of the problem in your mind over and over again. The pictures and movies may have sounds associated with them, your own voice and the voices of others and other sounds. You will certainly feel something about the problem. Here there are a whole range of possibilities, frustration, irritation, anger, fear, anxiety, nervousness, sadness, guilt, hurt to name a few possibilities. You will know what yours are.
The problem becomes indelibly engraved on your mind when you describe it with your language. You choose the words to describe the problem to yourself and it's this unconscious activity that confirms the problem as real. The words become boundaries to your thinking and prevent you from stepping outside of your problem box to easily discover solutions.
What's the answer? First, you need to understand something more of how you think. If a problem is active within your neurology, so you are consciously aware of it, you will run the pictures and movies, listen to the sounds, feel the feelings and your internal dialogue will remind you of the problem over and over. You are in effect sitting within the boundaries of the problem, feeling immovable, stuck. In NLP terminology, we call this being 'associated'. When you are associated into a problem, it fills your awareness and contributes extensively to your emotional state. You feel stuck.
Now I would like to share a secret with you. There is a quick and easy way to get outside of the boundaries of your problem thinking and into solution discovery mode. In NLP speak, we call this rapid technique the VK Dissociation. You are going to delight at how easy it is to break out of your bounded thinking and into free thinking in a different mode.
Here we go. Read the technique through once and then experiment with it.
1. Close your eyes. Think of a problem that you have right now. Hold that problem in your mind. Let it come to you.
2. As you think of the problem, allow your mind to fill up with the pictures, sounds, feelings and internal dialogue associated with that problem. Really experience it in all its rich detail.
3. Now, imagine you are floating out of your body, leaving your body, the pictures, sounds and feelings where they are and drift away to a point of observation. Turn and observe yourself having that problem. Now you are a neutral observer, no feelings about the problem, simply observing. In NLP, we call this being 'dissociated'.
4. As your neutral self, consider the problem from this dissociated position and take as many positive learnings about the problem as you can. Just list them in your mind. Make sure they are positive realisations.
5. Now, float back into your body, taking the new positive learnings with you. Come right back into you and notice how different the problem feels with your new mindset.
Congratulations, you have just successfully changed your mind in less than 2 minutes! Well done!
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