Feelings about Feelings
Today, I would like to ask you to consider emotions, or feelings from a slightly different perspective. So far in your studies, we have asked our clients intelligent and well-formed questions to winkle out the emotions that are driving a problem. When we hear a client mention an emotion, we have noted it down for later release on the Time Line using Time Line TherapyTM Techniques. This approach is highly effective and a very powerful catalyst for incredible and rapid change. Now, we are going to create even more personal success for the client by taking our questioning to another logical level.
I’m sure that you recall Family Therapist Virginia Satir from your Practitioner Training? Virginia was the lady modelled by John and Richard in the 1970’s and the source of the insightful linguistic tool that we now know and love as the Meta Model. John and Richard discovered that Virginia achieved incredible results with her talking therapy by getting really specific with the client. Why not refresh your memory on Meta Model by taking a look at the Meta Model questions in your Practitioner manual and perhaps re-reading The Magic of NLP Demystified?
Virgina asked her clients a very simple question with such impact that it begins to elicit change in the client immediately, shaking up the boundaries of the problem. There are two questions within this simple paradigm:
‘How do you feel?’
‘How do you feel about feeling that way?’
Try this on by thinking about something you have a strong feeling about. Associate into the feeling by seeing what you saw, hearing what you heard and feeling what you felt. Now, when you are totally associated into the feeling, ask yourself how you feel about feeling that way. You will find the answer really enlightening and begin to uncover a deeper level of emotional content. The way you feel about a feeling may be either positive or negative. If it’s a negative feeling, then you have two emotions to release on the Time Line. For example, you may be feeling angry about something and you may feel sad or frustrated about feeling angry. The feeling about a feeling may also be positive. For example, you may be feeling sad and feel really curious about that feeling, or really determined about the feeling.
The answer that your client gives you will provide you with a whole new layer of information that you can then use with your Time Line Coaching to really create a transformational result very quickly. Please test drive these questions, I’d love to hear about the results you get.